Leaving my niece’s sweet 16 party last month, I was struck by how meaningful that age is for a young woman. It’s a terribly precarious age and an emotionally vulnerable time. It requires a great deal of love and support to navigate those rocky, adolescent years. I wasn’t sure my gift was the most relevant, but I think she liked it — a simple locket. As I turned the corner, I couldn’t help but travel down memory lane and recall that seminal film that has since become something of a cultural touchstone, SIXTEEN CANDLES.

Made in 1984, the film follows the teen-aged heartbreak of Samantha Baker (played by Molly Ringwald) as she pines hopelessly for the most popular boy in school, Jake Ryan (played by the since-enigmatic Michael Schoeffling). Samantha is just trying to get through her 16th birthday without breaking down — her parents have become obsessed with her sister’s impending wedding. Compounding her woes is the fact Jake doesn’t even know she exists. Tough times for a young woman.

Her day goes from bad to horrible when an embarrassing note (spelling out how much she loves Jake) gets passed to him in class. Anthony Michael Hall moves the subplot along, playing the awkward freshman known only as “The Geek.” I only remember how much he needed to get his hands on a set of floppy discs. Ah, 1984. Of course, he’s got a crush on Samaritan, but is far outclassed by her, literally. Playing Poncho to his Villa is Long Duk Dong (played by Gedde Watanabe), the foreign exchange student from no-one’s quite sure where.

I think of my niece as Samantha and hope that she finds love one day. I’ve seen her have those kinds of days and hope she can pull through as gracefully as Ringwald. It’s hard to watch someone be in a bad mood for two hours, but she pulls off the roll with grace and vulnerability. I think it’s a testament to Hughes’s directing and pace.

Likening the people we know and love to fictional characters can be problematic, I’m aware, but I think it can help us understand them in a way. Or, perhaps we can at least get an idea of how to approach them. Like Ringwald, my niece is very sweet and very compelling and very bright. Actually, I wish I had thought to get her this film for her sweet sixteen.

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